Day 1: Sit Down, Have A Good Cry, Now GET UP!!

        Women have a tendency to wallow in pain. We will sit in a dark room for days, 

months, even years, crying and complaining about how, “that sorry good for nothing piece

of a man did me wrong and I can’t stand him.” There are women that you run into ten

years after a divorce and they’re still carrying that excess baggage called hurt on their

sleeves or still talking about that low life good for nothing who ruined their life. In the

meantime, he’s remarried to a cute young thang, has a new baby, a big house in the

suburbs, and is driving the newest SUV—HAPPY.

            Let me help you out. SLAP, SLAP, baby it’s over. Come out of it! Life goes on and can be better than ever. LET GO. You know you haven’t let go if whenever his name is mentioned you go ballistic—your mind shifts from the conversation to you in Rambo camouflage gear with a machine gun. Or, if you still get teary-eyed talking about the marriage that’s been over for five years—there’s a problem.

            So what do you do? Get up and go on with life!! Take it day by day. Spend time focusing on your blessings. You have so many-you may not realize it. For instance, can you walk? Do you have both your arms? Do you like your job? Well, enjoying the job may be pushing it for some of you but do you have a job that pays the bills? What about a Mom, Dad, siblings or friends who love you?

            Now, you need to express your thankfulness with enthusiasm. I don’t mean you just sit and say it in passing like pass the salt, please. Say it with some funky enthusiasm. You have so many reasons to be thankful. Just in case you don’t know how to get started let me help you:

            THANKFUL STATEMENTS: I’m thankful for the God I serve who loves me and thinks I’m wonderful. After all, He did make me in HIS image; I’m thankful for my family and friends that love me and that I love; I’m thankful for my age—seeing another year; I’m thankful for my church and pastor who really ministers to me; I’m thankful for my health, my job and being able to pay my bills, etc.

            Being thankful will change your whole outlook on life. It will make you feel great because you’re focusing on the positive, be thankful for anything and everything all during the day. You can always find reasons to be thankful.

            If you begin to focus on being thankful and not the “x” that did you wrong, you will begin to feel better about you. So starting today, this very second, get your bottom up and be thankful.

            And I’d like to say, “Thank ya, for reading da book!!”

            CAUTION: Slang will be used all through the book to give it a little flavor.

            Note”X” is used to describe the ex-husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.